Anatomy of this Outfit: Top – Urban Outfitters | Skirt – Free People | Shoes – Anonymous Copenhagen | Vest – H&M | Patch – ebay

anatomy of an outfit - photography by Johannes Husen Photography

I sort of kind of have a confession to make. I’ve been getting into arguments A LOT lately. Twitter arguments that is. Why? Oh, because I never do seem to learn my damned lesson. It’s been a busy few weeks in the US with Eric Casebolt’s assault on a black teenage girl, the discovery that a white civil rights activist had been posing as a person of color and the shooting in historic African-American church which claimed the lives of nine black Americans. And you can bet that twitter has been lit ablaze because of it.

Now, I have to admit I am still rather new to twitter (I know, strange right? It took me a good few weeks to understand what a @ was) so this whole trending hashtag thing is really new to me – I only started noticing and reading trending tweets last week – but I have discovered that following hashtags is a great way to keep up with current events when I am so far away from home and tap into the opinions of other people concerning said events.

anatomy of an outfit - photography by Johannes Husen Photography

And so, I’ve done what any normal 20-something-year old semi-social media savvy individual would do. I hopped on that shit, using twitter as an opportunity to “participate” in a dialogue with my fellow Americans about these recent events. Because without being able to actually surround myself with other Americans and discuss these topics face to face the next best thing is clearly to troll the hashtags #McKinneyPolice #RachelDolezel and #CharlestonShooting and start fighting with conservatives.

But in all seriousness it didn’t actually start out that way. I originally figured that trending hashtags would allow me to keep track of current events and read relevant political and social articles discussing the larger implications of these particular stories as well as connect with others who shared a similar sadness in these stories. Little did I actually know, but conservatives apparently really love using twitter as a vehicle in which to make the cries of their battle hymn against “liberal agenda,” heard. Other themes? Denying that white privilege is a thing, making blatant racist statements and puffing up their chests with circular reasoning.

anatomy of an outfit - photography by Johannes Husen Photography

And so, I’m left there spending the next 10 minutes questioning if I should respond to someone’s claims that racism can’t exist anymore because we have a black president or that Rachel Dolezel and Caitlyn Jenner are basically the same or that “those kids” wouldn’t have been man-handled if they had just listed to Casebolt or that the McKinney incident had nothing to do with race and if those kids behaved like their white friends instead of choosing to act like hood rats, and another 10 trying to figure out how to formulate a response in 140 characters or less.

My belief in equality and fairness are two things that I hold very near and dear to my heart. The belief that all living things should be treated with respect, dignity and compassion shape my life choices and views about the world, and for this reason, I feel like these are things I shouldn’t be silent about. And yet, clearly taking to twitter and trying to explain my viewpoint to people who refuse to acknowledge systemic, structural and institutional racism, are unable to understand the concept of white privilege and continue to compare transgender to transracial (which, by the way is not about changing one’s race but about being adopted into a family whose race is different than your own) is probably not the best use of my time. Because it just leaves me wanting to simultaneously cry and put my fist through the wall.

anatomy of an outfit - photography by Johannes Husen Photography

And yet aren’t these the very people that I should be engaging in conversation? Aren’t these the very minds that need to be open to hearing a new perspective and shouldn’t just be blocking out a dialogue and adding people to lists like “libtard-troll-douchebags” (true story) if we are to see any change or progression in the US? My goal in life is to be open, understanding and non-judgemental of ALL people and yet I find myself so disappointed at those who refuse to admit oppression and privilege are real and scratch my head trying to figure out how they can have such logic. I want to be tolerant but how can I be tolerant of intolerant thoughts and comments? But at the end of the day, clearly having singular arguments with conservative white men in their 40s (funny how it’s always that demographic, huh?) via twitter isn’t going to do much for the progression of civil rights – and yet, writing well-written thought provoking political articles, creating documentaries or forming discussion panels only means opening a discussion up to people who willingly WANT to have it. The only way to start a real dialogue about these topics is to have them with the very conservatives who vehemently oppose any view anathema to their own. And that has to be done face-to-face and not with both parties angrily trying to come up with a cogent succinct enough for twitter’s maximum character count.

Further reading and listening:
A black trans woman explains changing gender vs changing race
Why McKinney police violence isn’t about one bad apple
The media and black victims
Charleston church massacre
…and an article from the right on how they view salon’s article above

Photography: Johannes Husen

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Rae the EIC of LFB and YEOJA Magazine. She is also a photographer and social media influencer.


  • Rae! Hope you’ve been well. I don’t have a Twitter but I have always thought of it as a platform that a lot of people use to engage in political/sports/cultural-related debates. Such conversations are endless and definitely subjects in which many trolls participate in! Glad you’re brave enough to be expressing your thoughts and beliefs :)


    Tee |

    • rae

      Thank you so much and I hope that you are well too!

  • WOW these are amazing photos!!


    • rae

      Thanks, Candice!

  • This is a really interesting post. Twitter and other social networking platforms must be quite hard to get used to, when using them for the first time.

    My advice is;

    Let people say what they they think, but when they stray into personal attacks (on you or anybody else) just block them. If they can’t debate in a nice/civil way, they don’t deserve your attention.

    Feel free to say what you think, but be careful about defamatory comments and personal attacks.

    Be thick skinned and accept that you will lose a few arguments. Try to be gracious when that happens.

    Try to enjoy these political discussions, however they work out.

    Keep doing it. Engaging with these discussions is a very important contribution to the world…!

    p.s. Nice pics. Love that jacket and the blue hair…!

    • rae

      You are so right – when people cross that line and stop being respectful than they should be blocked and should not be granted any time of the day. I always try to be thick skinned and polite as well even to people who are not the same with me, but I will not allow myself to be be bullied or name called.

  • You’re looking fine.
    I’ll be honest, I know very little of the recent American shootings, purely because I’ve been knee deep in the UK’s political problems – which although isn’t shooting is still tumultuous. When ever I stumble across conservative American view points I always feel such a chill down my spine, how can people still think like this? It’s a different world though, America is so so different to the UK.
    I’m also a huge believer in equality and fairness, and I cannot understand how you can’t be a believer in it – how can anyone believe that certain groups are better than others? That we can’t all have the same opportunities? Sadly I think it comes down to money so much of the time.
    I haven’t got in to any twitter arguments of late, sometimes, even though it makes me want to scream, I enjoy it; but you’re right, 140 characters isn’t really enough to change view points.
    On Saturday in the UK there is a big march happening in London, against the cuts to education, welfare and health care and I am hoping that there will be some good come from it.

    • rae

      Thanks so much for your comment and I am so glad that there are people like you out there who understand these issues!

  • I still haven’t really figured out how to use Twitter :P People tweet so often I have no idea how you keep up with anything on there! Anyways, I’m always reading these conversations and sometimes they can get very, very frustrating, but I decide not to put anything out there, because truly unreasonable people can’t be reasoned with! That’s definitely not a good way to go about it though haha. You’re right in saying that these are the conversations we need to have. Next time I find myself caught in the midst of one, I’ll challenge myself to not be so passive about it :) -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s

    • rae

      Thank you so much for your comment and I really do hope that you are able to join the cause and speak up next time someone says something that is out of line :)

  • I love these anatomy of an outfit posts! You are just sooo beautiful!

    I think it’s great you’ve been getting into discussions on Twitter about these important topics. I believe in equality and being just and fair, but it’s difficult to like humanity when you kind of want to punch them in the face. Thank you for giving me these articles to read, I love reading about this and feeling more aware of the world we live in.

    xx Bash | Bash Says Hey | bloglovin’

    • I’m so with you, Bash! <3

      AND YOU of course too, Rae! I know it's a sad, sad world… And I'm glad that we are aware of the world and its people we are livin with! Totally understand your point of view… After watching this at The Times: I've written an article about prejudices:
      We have sunk to an appalling level where one must question the viability of US laws…
      Have a wonderful weekend, Rae! And thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!!! Well done, girl!!

      xxx Ira

      • rae

        I will definitely need to take a look at your article and I am so happy to see that there are other women out there who care about these topics too!

        • Thank you, Rae! That’s so nice of you to write. Appreciate it!
          Happy Sunday!

          xoxo Ira

    • rae

      Thank you so much and I agree with you entirely.

  • EllenAtlanta

    I love everything about this post, you are a great writer xx

    • rae

      Thanks, lady!

  • Omg you’re so pretty!
    Just stumbled upon this post and I can totally relate,
    I tend to argue a lot if in real life or on social media, but in my case it’s simply because I love debating and discussing things ^^;
    Reading what I just wrote I seem a really exhausting person to be around actually – wow..
    Anyways, love your blog and you’re photos are just amazing!


    • rae

      Thank you so much Michelle! And no, I think it is great that you stick up for what you believe in!

  • these are amazing…so so love it :)

    kisses from dubai ♥

  • I know what you mean… I feel like, though, it might be better to spend energy on people who seem to be more neutral, or just haven’t been thought about the issues before? I find a lot of people (ie the conservative white men you mentioned) are set in their views to the point of being completely illogical, where it’s not possible to have a real dialogue with them.

    • rae

      You are so right – I finally realized this and will be reaching out to people whose minds do actually have the possibility of changing.

  • Gorgeous outfit. I love the jacket.

    • rae

      Thanks, Jennifer!

  • Kayla

    Nice! I love your hair colour!!!

    Sheer Beauty Blog

    • rae

      Thanks, Kayla!

  • Michèle
    • rae

      Thanks, lady!

  • millieerosee

    im loving the hair! its gorgeous :) x x

    • rae

      Thanks, lady!

  • Stephanie Williams

    First all, you look absolutely gorgeous Rae! And second, it’s amazing and wonderful for bloggers to post more of their stands in areas such, and especially politics. It’s sad that people in the U.S can blatantly just sit there and say there is no such thing as racial issues (especially against the people that are not White) and blame it on people blowing things out of proportions. These are the individuals that choose to turn a blind eye because they are safe and it doesn’t concern them or they have not been through what others have.
    I’ve tried the whole Twitter thing many times and end up closing the account, but it sounds like it’s very informative for you and hope you get to enjoy it more for fun and educational purposes. x

    • rae

      Thank you so much and yes it is terribly sad. I just really hope that things change soon.

  • I can’t seem to get the hang of it too, tweeting I mean. I hop on it once a week or so, not sure if that’s a good thing but oh well haha. I couldn’t agree more with you on this topic too, it’s not just US, it’s happening everywhere and I love that you brought this up. x

    • rae

      Thank you so much, Sharon for your comment and solidarity!

  • Ellie Adams

    You are so effortlessly cool it’s ridiculous. your hair is so stunning too, love this look :)


    • rae

      Aww thank you so much, Ellie!

  • You look amazing – I love your hair!! You are my style crush :) On a serious note, there are so many bad things going on in the world right now and I totally agree with you on all your points!


    • rae

      Thanks so much Sarah!

  • I haven’t gotten into any twitter feuds but I witness them happening all the time. As a minority living in America I definitely get your frustrations and your views here. I struggle with trying to understand or “tolerate” ignorant and narrow minded opinions. A dialogue needs to happen but when people aren’t willing to be open minded on both sides it only makes tensions even higher.


    • rae

      I am so sorry that you even have to deal with close-minded people, let alone “tolerate” them. You should not have to, they are the ones in the wrong but hopefully we can create dialogues and in a few generations our grand kids will not have to deal with these issues at all.

  • Gorgeous! You look amazing!

    Tegan xx – Permanent Procrastination

  • It must be so difficult to resist giving those assholes a piece of you mind. But it’s a tough either way. Personally I wouldn’t get them the time of day. I think it would get me too worked up. But I’m sure you’re stronger than I am. & they do need to be set straight. That’s disgusting that the conservatives don’t think white privilege is a thing. Really? That’s insane.

    • rae

      I have finally realized that it makes me really worked up and is just not worth it in the end. When grown men result to name calling and sexist comments, they are most definitely not worth my time in any shape or form. And I know it is absolutely insane but so many people just refuse to believe that white privilege is a thing. Until race conversations actually center around real problems rather than the feelings of the privileged things will not really change.

  • Sybil

    rocking this whole look!! :D

    Have a great week!

    Animated Confessions

    • rae

      Thanks so much, Sybil!

  • Gorgeous, as ever. You always kill it!

    hannie from HUEMORIST

    • rae

      Thanks, Hannie!

  • Jasmine

    I’m glad you’re sticking up for your beliefs and speaking your mind! Even though I am social media saavy like yourself, I don’t always speak up for what I believe in. You’re right in that equality and fairness are important and I’m so glad that you spoke up! It’s definitely tough speaking with people are so closed minded :( I admire your courage!

    You look amazing by the way! ;)

    be the plebeian

    • rae

      Thank you so much for your comment, Jasmine! It really means so much to me. I try to always stand by what I believe but I can tell you that twitter is definitely not the best place to do it. I will continue to like posts and post articles that I believe in but I will no longer get into 1-on-1 discussions that deteriorate so bad that I have grown men calling me names and saying sexist things to me.

  • Thank you for this & sticking to your beliefs & trying to show the world some tolerance. Racism is very real; anyone who denies it is delusional or perhaps a privileged individual. For me, arguing with these people causes me such stress because they really don’t seem to get it. So kudos to you! Cool hair too. :]

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    • rae

      Thank you for your comment, Carmen, it means a lot to me. I agree with you entirely, and yes it causes so much stress so I have stepped away from twitter fights and am working on figuring out more constructive ways to try to change the world ;)

  • twitter is an easy way for people to hind behind their computers to voice their opinions. it’s ridiculous how people truly believe that racism doesn’t exist or that rachel dolezal was in the right for impersonating a black person. all we can do is stand by our own beliefs and hope for the best

    • rae

      I agree with everything you have said here and yes, we need to stay strong, fight for our beliefs, and hope that we can make a difference so that one day everyone on this earth will be in agreement that everyone deserves to be treated with the same kind of respect and kindness.

  • i couldn’t agree more with this post and i’ve definitely found myself in the same situation countless times before where i can decide to either engage in a (probably) fruitless + pointless argument with someone who isn’t going to listen to me anyway or just leave it and walk away. for my own sanity, and especially on the internet, i tend to pick my battles and only get involved if i really feel like it’s worthwhile and might actually make a difference to get someone to open their mind a little more, but for the most part the internet can bring out the worst in people (or the worst people) when it comes to major issues like racism/sexism/civil rights/privilege, etc. it’s a bit of a losing battle over twitter with so few characters to express yourself in the way you want to be heard but in general we can never really give up fighting for what we believe in so at least you have a platform like your blog to share your thoughts on in more than 140 characters. :)

    jessica –

    • rae

      Thank you for this comment and I agree entirely. After a few twitter arguments I finally threw in the towel because in the end I just felt so defeated and sad about the state of my country and the kind of ideas and thoughts it breeds. The only problem about writing about these things on my blog though, is that my readers are the kinds of people I want to engage with so they are not the kind of people who would breed hate. It’s the people who are on twitter and are close minded who need to be addressed, but you are right, you need to pick your battles and it might just be possible that some people will never understand or check their privilege. I guess the best thing to do is to just try to make changes in the lives of people we know on a personal level and to reach out to those who are straddling the line between right and wrong and have a basic understanding that everyone deserves a basic level of human respect that has just seem to have gone awry somehow.

  • Hickman Martin

    The state of debate in our country is so broken. Whatever side someone is on when they are confronted with someone who believes differently that person is an idiot, or evil, or just plain wrong. I figured out that the internet is not a place to change any minds with reasoned, civil arguments. If there even are such places that might work in, the web certainly does not qualify. My advice I always give to people is do not focus on what or who you hate, focus all your energies on what and who you think are positive, shining, important lights that might really make a difference. People tune out negative anything anymore. Its a waste of keystrokes. But people are desperate for something that might actually help. Lovely shots, such a beauty! Thanks for your visit to my blog :)

    All Things Bright and Lovely

    • rae

      Thanks so much and yes, it is very difficult to talk about complicated issues these days with people because everyone gets so defensive and are more interested in hating than trying to be open to the concept that everyone deserves respect and love. Thanks for stopping by!