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Conscious Living is a series which takes a closer look at living a life full of thoughtful choices and conscious decision making in order to live a life full of meaning, self-love, and respect for ourselves and the world around us.

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I am all about conscious living (hell, it’s even in the subline of Love from Berlin). I will start to dive into this topic here on LFB very soon, but let me just give you a bit of a preview: To me conscious living is all about consciously deciding how we live our lives. This really seeps into every aspect of life, but for now for this post, I want to focus on consciously making good decisions about how we spend our time in order to get the most out of it and lead the most enriching version of our lives possible.

As you might have noticed, I took a bit of a hiatus for the last few weeks.

Which, is pretty surprising seeing as I am a workaholic. Because, my dear friends, here is the rub:

  1. burnout will inevitably occur if we push ourselves too hard
  2. perfectionists have a tendency to overwork which is actually counter-productive and leads us to be inefficient – the very thing perfectionists truly hate!

And so, while knowing this, and yet also consistently feeling the need to constantly create content and feeling guilty when I kick back and take a break, I tried to do just that in order to stave of this impending burn out I felt fast approaching. So, for the past few weeks, I tried to stake a step back, remove the guilt, and relax a little. Granted, I haven’t completely given up doing work, (I do have a 9 to 5 after all), have still stayed relatively active on snapchat and instagram (shameless self promotion: @lovefromberlin) and have been working on a lot of the behind-the-scenes LFB work. I did however take a step back from posting on LFB, replying to comments, and sending out any newsletters to give myself a bit of a work vacation. (Sorry to those looking forward to any of those things, but, hey! I’m back now!) Verdict?: I’m really glad that I did, because through doing so, I realized a few things:

Time is not infinite

We only have so many hours each day. For most of them, we spend them working. Then there are all those miscellaneous tasks or daily “blockers” that chip away at our time at random moments – waiting in lines, dealing with traffic, daily chores, etc. – that when added up end up taking up a substantial amount of our day. What we are left with are a few good hours in which we choose what to do. When we look at it this way, those few “me-hours” are so precious and we should really be making the most of them doing what we love and loving what we do. Which leads me to the second point…

Time is expensive

Coming from the start-up world, we talk a lot about expenses. Not expenses in terms of financial purchases, but expenses in terms of time. If you ever overhear people from the start-up scene talking about “how expensive” a feature is going to be, we are talking about how time intensive the actual implementation of a feature is going to be. Granted, this does still boil down to money, because money is time in the start-up world, but if we just stick to thinking about time as currency, we begin to realize something. Things that take a long time are more expensive and things that take less time are cheaper. And I don’t know about you, but the more expensive something is, the more worth it said thing better be. So I’ve taken this thought process and applied it to my daily life. After realizing how few “me-hours” I truly have, I only want to be “investing” my time in things that are truly going to make me happy. Running LFB does make me happy, but being a workaholic doesn’t. Using up all my “me-hours” sitting in front of the computer is not fulfilling. I want to “invest” my free hours in seeing friends and devoting my time to other hobbies. As far as the rest of the hours in the day go, I have also taken this new mantra to a whole new level, refusing to waste time in general. If there is a book I start that I don’t like, why waste hours I will never get back on being determined to finish it? Falling down the internet rabbit hole? Sometimes enjoyable, but often a waste of time: click bait articles, I’m looking at you.

Nobody regrets not working enough on their death bed

Continuing with the theme here of “spending” my “time currency” is the simple fact that no one regrets not working enough on their death bed. I doubt that at 90-something (clearly a true optimist here!) I will be lying in a hospital bed lamenting the frequency of my blog posts. I do, however, foresee regretting hours of free time I devoted to doing work instead of being outside in the fresh air with friends. Relationships are some of the most beautiful things we can cultivate on this earth and one of the most worthwhile ways to spend time. And when I say relationships, I don’t only mean those with friends, family, fur babies, or significant others, I also mean the relationship we have with ourselves. We should be our own best friend first and foremost and we should learn to cultivate that relationship and revel in our own company.

Work life needs “hard edges”

I am the first to say that I feel unproductive when not working. I also do genuinely love working – whether it’s on my photography, on LFB, or UX/UI work. But a VERY IMPORTANT game changer here is the concept that WORK NEEDS BOUNDARIES. When work life begins to eat up those precious few “me-hours” a day, we are no longer in the driver seat choosing what to do. And that’s just an expense I don’t want to have anymore. We really need to stick to some “hard edges” aka specific work hours that do not bleed into the rest of our time.

Work better be fun

Seeing as so many damned hours a day ARE devoted to work (it’s gotta be something like 80% of our day, but don’t quote me on this because I am definitely NOT a statistician. I only passed statistics bcos I systematically cheated. Sorry, Mr. King!), we better fucking love what it is that we are doing. Now, I know that sometimes we have to do things we do not like because we have to pay the bills. In those cases, we just have to make the best out of our situation. But sometimes we also just have to take risks and dive head first and eat ramen noodles for a few months, in order to try to turn some of our dreams into our day job. Big announcement here: I will be doing just that at the end of September. I am stepping away from my full-time UX/UI job to pursue my dreams of becoming a photographer that can live from her craft as well as really try to make LFB even better. (See what I did there? My “me-hours” can now be used to spend time with myself or friends and family without the guilt.) This is only possible by eliminating my current day job because…

It’s impossible to do it all

I have been trying to run a photography business as well as a full-time blog all while having a full time job. It’s just not sustainable. Referring back to the first take-away on this list, there are just not enough hours in a day to pursue them all. The beautiful thing though, is that the minute we realize this is the minute we can start having more control over how we plan our hours. This will take some brutal elimination on the part of hobbies or work we just do not love as much as the others. But this does leave room for us to cultivate the few things we really do love and still have breathing space for everything else.

We should not feel guilty for relaxing

Okay, so this one is STILL hard for me. I mean, I even felt guilty about not blogging while on holiday. But we should not feel guilty about taking time for ourselves doing absolutely what-fucking-ever. As long as we give our working hours “hard edges,” and really WORK during those hours, there is no need for guilt. The work is getting done. After hours? Let the guilt-free Netflix binge begin.

Stepping away makes us happy

As you have already gathered by now through reading this post, time is precious and not to be wasted, and the best time spent is time that enriches our lives. That time is always time that makes us happy. With such a finite amount of them, I for one know that I hope the majority of my hours are spent smiling and not even thinking about time because I am having that. much. fucking. fun. These positive moments form positive memories which, if we follow the thought process of “expense,” is actually like investing. You end up making more than you put in. Get it? If not let me explain: When we form happy memories those memories can continue to be recalled and continue to produce happy feelings for us long after the actual event has passed. Ultimately, even if we do not know why we are here (getting all existential now), we want to make the most of it and us. So many of us have been tricked into the mindset that work intrinsically equals value, but what is truly valuable is the personal ways in which we can make ourselves and others happy.

Stepping away also recharges us and creates room for new ideas

Having free time also allows us to generate new ideas. Have you ever noticed that the best ideas pop up at the most random times? For me, it’s usually during my morning shower. Our mind needs time to wander, stumble upon new weird crazy ideas. If we are constantly working and never recharging, a: our battery is dead and we are of no fucking use to anyone, let alone our boss. b: we have no buffer space to dream.

Now I am no self-help guru or anything so fancy, nor do I claim to be, but these are just some of my take-aways from my time away from the computer screen. They might be things you guys already know and I’m just really late on the train to Adultville, but you know, everything and everyone at it’s/their own pace.

How do you think about time, and what do you value the most? Oh, and please let me know what you think about LFB’s new podcast. I am totally new to the world of recording, so I can assure you that it will improve with time!

Don’t forget to check out the podcasts & sign up for LFB’s conscious living challenge.

Stay conscious, Rae


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Rae Tilly

Rae the EIC of LFB and YEOJA Magazine. She is also a photographer and social media influencer.


  • It is so important to rest as well as know when to rest! Trying not to feel guilty is the tricky part for me.

    Katrina Sophia

  • Its so important to take time away from the busy lives we live. I always go back to my folks and chill out for a few days.

    Jenn |

  • I love the idea of a “podcast post” it’s very practical to be able to listen to it instead of reading it so I can multitask ! I’ve always loved working hard but I think it’s very important to rest and to listen to your body, I will never push myself to a point where I can’t keep my eyes open or am nearing a breakdown, my health is way too important to me for that ! I think it’s all about finding balance and a routine that works for you !

    xx, Charlie

  • ana

    Great post, there’s so much great advice there! And the podcast post is such a nifty idea haha, love it!

    Check out my blog <3 | ANASOFIACHIC


  • Yes! I’ve also been busy trying to figure out how to use my time in such a way that I get all the things that are important to me done, and to not waste it on thing that don’t matter… Some times I feel I’ve got it figured out, but then it slips away again and I need to figure it out all over again, haha.
    And I did like the podcast form a lot. Gave me a good chance to listen and do some visual prep-work for my own blogposts at the same time;)

  • This is such a thought-provoking post. As a workaholic, I always want to do everything and when I can’t it really hits me. Time is truly precious and we should spend it on more important things and things that make us happy!

    I really love the podcast – it’s nice to listen to blog posts rather than read them :)

    Pop over to my blog!


  • This is so cool!

    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

  • Great insights! I have been thinking about this lately too as how to juggle career, family, friends, and blogging. Great pod cast! Have a wonderful rest of the

    xo, Bry


  • Not only do I love this idea of this post but to make it a podcast is even awesomer!! A+++
    xx, Pia
    @ gymbagsjetlags

  • Elizabeth Hisle

    I really get this post. I am also a workaholic who did theatre tech in college (the workaholic dream) and it totally broke me. NEVER feel guilty for resting. I make a point to at least have a morning to do nothing once a week. I just let whatever happens, happen and I can tell you I’m a much healthier, happier person for it.

  • Yellowicing

    This is an incredible post and just what I needed today, so thank you for that!
    Me time is SO important, I blogged about it recently actually. Absolutely agree with everything you wrote here.

    Lucy x- Yellowicing

  • Amazing post!!! Fabulous tips and I agree with everything you wrote!!!
    Thanks a lot!

    Btw, I’m in love with your blog *.*

    Denim on Denim | NEW OUTFIT POST :D

    InstagramFacebook Oficial PageMiguel Gouveia / Blog Pieces Of Me :D

  • Angela Donava

    Stunning post!

    Have a nice evening!

    Angela Donava

  • Shauna C

    Dying over your hair. It is SO fabulous -xx


  • Great post! All in all, I think life is about balance because we have to spend enough work and me-time to be happy. We can’t neglect either.
    XoXo from South Africa

  • Really great post! I LOVE how you recorded it and posted the recording for us to hear! We should pursue our dreams and passions as well as NOT feeling guilty for relaxing because life isn’t all about constantly doing something to achieve a goal!

    Heba xx || The HebaBloglovinInstagram

  • Fantastic and really innovative idea, Rae! I really enjoyed listening to your soft voice. I believe that the sense of your life is to be happy and fulfilled with what we’re doing day by day! If we’re not, why wasting time and doing something what we don’t like?! Welcome to Adultville, Rae! You’re already arrived!! At least this is what I’ve thought when finished reading your wonderful and inspiring thoughts of wisdom.

    xoxo Ira

    • rae

      Thank you so much for this comment as well as your tweets! I agree completely with the point of life being intrinsically linked to being fulfilled. There is no reason that we should settle for anything less than making every day a day we can enjoy and be proud we had!

      • It’s my pleasure, Rae! Your wise words were very inspiring so I had to share them immediately! ;-) Love your writing and this wonderful comment. It makes my (Mon)day! <3 Have a great one, sweetheart!!

        xoxo Ira

  • I don’t know why but I wasn’t able to hear it… :(

    I definitely agree with you – don’t waste your time in the job that is not your favourite – you’ll regret it with time!!! That’s why I’m trying my best to became a blogger :)))) and I hope one day I will be a full-time travel writer :)

    • rae

      Oh no :( Well here is a link to the podcast as well (! You should be able to listen to it here. And I agree, we all need to be doing things we love! Best of luck with your travel blogging dreams!

      • I will try to listen to it later and I will let you know what I think of it :) HAve a nice weekend!

  • Danielle Beautyblog

    Love the audio aspect of his post! Haven’t seen it done before!

    • rae

      Thanks so much, Danielle. And yeah, I don’t think I have either, but I thought it would make text-heavy posts more digestible and reader-friendly!

  • OMG I found an awesome blog here!!! I must come here more and more. But just a question. Do you write by German, coz I learn German now. And if you write and has a podcast like it, it’s very useful for me.

    • rae

      I am so glad that you enjoy it! Make sure to join the mailing list and/or follow on bloglovin’ if you want to stay up to date with all the current and future happenings on LFB if you aren’t already! Where are you from, and what made you decide to learn German? I am actually an American living in Berlin, and while I do speak fluent German, my grammar leads something to be desired, but I might consider doing a podcast about learning languages!

  • sanzibell

    ahhh ich liebe deine grünen haare ♥
    Lieben Gruß by Sarah Annabell

    • rae

      Danke! Ist ja sehr aufwendig, aber macht spaß :)

  • Great post. I am so glad I found your blog! :)

    • rae

      Hey Sara! So glad that you enjoy it! Hope you keep reading and join the mailing list to stay in touch!

  • loved this – especially getting to listen to it via a podcast! I also share a love of working hard but totally agree about boundaries! Good luck taking the step going full time, you can totally do it :) We only live once and time is precious, no need to waste it doing things we don’t love *nods*

    • rae

      Thanks so much, I am so glad that the podcast is being so well received! And thanks – yes time is precious so I am doing my best not to ever waste any moment of it.

  • Ohh sounds like some exciting times ahead for you! Good luck and looking forward to hearign about it :) I like your hard-edges concept. I think a lot of the time I end up mixing up my work and relaxation (i.e. procrastination) together so much that I don’t do either thing properly.

    • rae

      Thanks so much Jane! And yea, I think that hard-edges will do a lot to help efficiency and time management as well as just piece of mind to be able to enjoy me-time but still be productive when necessary.

  • You made a clean in his life and that’s wonderful. In fact this is one of the principles of minimalism (if you do not already know), spend more time with family and activities that bring you pleasure without stress. Not feeling charged and stressed all the time at work, makes you sick. Congratulations, and you’re always very happy. And thank you for your visit in my blog and praise <3

    • rae

      Thanks so much, Aria for your thoughtful comment. I actually had no idea that it was one of the principles of minimalism but it does definitely make a lot of sense. Could you actually point me in the direction of some reading about minimalistic living? That would be awesome!

      • Sim claro, seria um prazer! Eu tenho alguns favoritos e acho que você vai adorá-los também: ; ; ; For now I think those are the main ones. I hope you read for at least the most famous of posts each one to see what you think and then tell me! I love your comments on my blog hah is nice to see we’re not talking alone.

      • Sorry, I sent half of the answer in my language and the other half in English. Accept only that, please haaha

        Yes of course, it would be a pleasure! I have a few favorites and I think you’ll love them too:;;; http: // …. For now I think those are the main ones. I hope you read for at least the most famous of posts each one to see what you think and then tell me! I love your comments on my blog hah is nice to see we’re not talking alone.

  • I’ve been trying to reevaluate my life and the time I spend during the day so this post particularly peaked my interest. I wasn’t able to listen to the audio version – not sure if its an issue on my end or not – but thought I should pass that error onto you just incase. Also I have startup experience so I get what you mean about “time” but more often than not we don’t take this mentality to our personal lives as well. I’m going to try to bring some of that critical mentality to my free time and see if it allows me to have a hard cut off for my work hours.


    • rae

      So glad that you enjoyed this post, Monika! And unfortunately I am not sure if the problem is on your end on mine, because for me it is showing up properly. Maybe you need to have some kind of player installed? Hope you will manage to establish some clear-cut work hours!

      • It works fine now! Not sure why it didn’t on that day.

  • Stripes n Vibes

    I agree with you, sometimes we need to prioritize some things in life to save some time for other important things. Most important for me is family time, especially in the fast paced environment I work and I try to cherish every moment)
    Loved the podcast!


    • rae

      Family time is super important, especially, as you said, in this face paced world. Would love to be able to spend more time with family, but it’s hard as they live in the US and I am in Germany. Still, I make it a point to facetime often!

  • I totally agree with you, we have not too much time daily for doing what we really want, sometimes blogging takes me too much time of my free hours and then I regret that I didn’t spent this time with my husband and friends. And there are so many things which I would like to do after work (music, sport, realax), but it’s exactly how you written – impossible to do it all.

    • rae

      It is impossible to do it all, but I am starting to realize that although there are many things I enjoy, unless I really eliminate some of them, I will never really progress at any of them!

  • Adriana R.

    Lovely post! I definitely agree with you. I fell in love with your blog :o

    • rae

      Thanks so much Adriana! So glad you like LFB!

  • I am with you 110% on this. I am currently in the middle of a vacation (but right now I’m the first one up!) so I have put my blog to the side. I cannot tell you how many blog post ideas have sprung up in this fast-paced time of touring around! Whenever my vacation is over I’m going to be so ready to work on my blog again.
    Peace & Love // Celestralite

    • rae

      Thanks for your lovely comment and I really do hope that you are able to enjoy as much of your holidays as possible!

  • Hi succulent lover !! Thanks for the lovely comment on my lastest post.
    Talking about Yankee Candles, I love them too ! They got soooo many scents it’s crazy. But my favorite ones are the fruits/floral ones because the “food” ones are a bit too much for me.
    I own some of the little jars and they are perfect for when I am working at my desk. But I admit : they won’t smell in my entire appartement ! I heard the tartelettes worked better than the little jars so I just need to try them out :p

    • rae

      Of course, no problem, Audrey! I know it’s super crazy how many flavors they have. I am actually the complete opposite. I LOVE their food candles and other wintry scents like snowflake, pumpkin, etc. but am not too into their florals. So I tend to only burn yankee candles in the winter. Something about these scents just make the house smell like Christmas which I love. I tend to burn other brands during the summer though :)

  • I
    must say your style is very impressive! You have a fantastic
    blog and all the pictures are wonderful! Loved everything!

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    Keep in touch

    • rae

      Thanks so much, Charu! Really glad that you enjoyed my blog. I will take a look at your blog, okay?

  • This blogpost is so inspiring and I also try to live each day.

    x Karen

    • rae

      Thanks so much, Karen! So glad that you enjoyed it.

  • Absolutely loved listening to this post! I’ve really missed checking in with all things LFB, my blog reading time has been almost non existent recently – I need to take your advice and really prioritise things in order to make room for the things I really love to do alongside those less exciting things that I need to do! x

    • rae

      Thanks so much, Jennie! I am so glad that you enjoyed it! Hope that you are able to figure out a better way to prioritize, because you definitely deserve to also be doing things you love!

  • idu

    I totally enjoyed listening to this. For being so young you are very focused. And I’m pretty sure no one on their death bed will be busy regretting the frequency of their posts. Good job. (clapping emoji).

    • rae

      So glad that you enjoyed listening to the podcast, idu! :D