Conscious Living is a series which takes a closer look at living a life full of thoughtful choices and conscious decision making in order to live a life full of meaning, self-love, and respect for ourselves and the world around us.

Rae here! I am so glad today to be sharing with you Betti’s first piece for LFB! Really hope that you guys enjoy this read and leave her some feedback on what you thought of this post! So without further ado…

Talking #lifegoals is a tricky business. Dreaming big, self-improvement and wanting to be the best possible version of yourself is an admirable ambition – as long as you’re doing it for yourself. When we start measuring our lives by other people’s benchmarks, our priorities tend to get a bit skewed. As a result, we spend hours, days, or even months pursuing goals that we think other people will approve of, without stopping to consider whether they’re right for us.

My cousin J was in Berlin over the new year. While we were freezing our balls off outside my favourite bar in Mitte, glugging red wine, I told him that I was a bit worried about how little I felt I had achieved over the past month, and he imparted a few words of wisdom. “Bett,” he said, “life is too short to measure yourself by other people’s conception of success.”

J is a psychologist, and a bit of a scallywag to boot. He knows his shit. His advice made me think about how much time I waste worrying about how my life comes across to others, how many of the decisions I make are based on what is the ‘right and proper’ adult thing to do. I realised that, at the age of 27, I had found myself for the first time chasing dreams that weren’t my own – dreams that I thought a ‘real writer’ and ‘functioning adult’ should be pursuing – and was reaping a watered-down sense of accomplishment as a result.

Later that evening, when the last of the vino tinto worked its way out of my system, one stark realisation hit me harder than Miley Cyrus’s wrecking ball – life is too short to base your actions and decisions on anything but your own passions and expectations.

So following on from J’s logic, and from Rae’s post last week about New Year’s resolutions, I decided to filter out the life-chaff that so many of us expect of ourselves, and live 2016 according to what I have called my ‘Life’s Too Short’ list. Here goes;

Life is too short to count calories and watch scales, or to spend hours a day stagnating on the sofa. It’s too short to eat substandard supermarket ready meals, and cheap chocolate. Life is too short to listen without really hearing, and to complain about the weather – unless you’re talking to a middle aged British person, of course. Then it’s mandatory.

Life is too short to brush your hair every day, and to iron your clothes religiously. Hey, knots add volume and texture, and mini-pleats are so in right now – crinkles are kind of the same thing, right?

Life is too short to read more than 50 pages of a book you aren’t enjoying, regardless of the kudos you will receive if you complete it. I accepted long ago that I will never read Tolstoy’s “War And Peace,” Joyce’s “Ulysses,” or Dan Brown’s “The Da Vinci Code.” I’m cool with that.

Life is too short to expend time and effort on people who put you down. Funny, blunt friends who tell it like it is are fine and dandy. Friends who tell you that your new jacket accentuates your already manly shoulders definitely aren’t.

Life is too short for fandoms. Instead of swooning over someone else’s lifestyle and legend, create your own. Life is too short for mediocre clothes, and for metaphorically rimming any trend that appears in the latest issue of Vogue. Life is too short to be afraid of looking stupid. It will never be as bad as you think it will. Plus, your dumbass mistakes make the best retrospective anecdotes. Nothing elicits a quick laugh quite as well as self-deprecation.

Life is too short to live vicariously through the lives of others on a screen. Facebook, Instagram and glossy TV box sets are great, but not every night. Get out, even if you’re a little bit sleepy, because there is fun to be had and a lifetime of memories to be made. Whoever said ‘no good story ever started with a lemonade’ missed the mark a little – it would be more accurate to say that ‘no good story ever started with a solo Netflix and chill’.

Finally, life is too short to sleepwalk through, worrying excessively about what you are going to ‘do’ and ‘be’. You are doing and being, right here, right now. The things you see, experience, work at, enjoy and despair over today are the things that will shape your future. Nights spent lying awake, fretting about what might happen and how much you’re getting wrong, only shape your puffy under-eye bags the next day.

That’s why this year, my resolution is to stop making decisions based on what I believe other people would do or want, and to stop berating myself for mistakes I believe I’ve made. Instead, I vow to listen to my gut when deciding a course of action, while running at life full pelt with open arms and a willingness to embrace the unknown. Because life is never too short to immerse yourself for hours in your favourite book, whether it’s Sartre or “Sweet Valley High.”

There’s always time to squeeze in an extra glass of wine with that friend who makes you laugh ‘til your stomach begs for mercy, to dance like a dickhead to forgotten 80’s classics when you should be asleep, and to curl up in bed until noon when you have an empty morning. Life is never too short for pointless knowledge quests, learning hilariously bad jokes, stopping to notice the sunlight refracting through tiny beads of water on a spiderweb, developing badass cooking skills, and making endless mind maps of all the possible things you can potentially see and do with your limited time on earth. Pursuing the little things that give your life joy and meaning, regardless of what anyone else thinks, is just as important as securing a future with ‘#lifegoals’ stamped all over it in big red letters, and is never a waste of time.

photography by: and Rae Tashman

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Stay conscious, Betti


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Betti Baudelaire

Betti Baudelaire is a Berlin-based freelance journalist and part-time barista extraordinaire. She enjoys making the most of her monthly travel pass, searching for bargains at flea markets, and pretending she is still a ballerina.


  • I loved reading this post and beautiful photos too. It’s like poetry! I agree, sometimes I wish life would go by faster but most of the time I feel like I’m chasing after it. X

    Sally ~ DiagonSally

    • Hey Sally, so glad you enjoyed! Totally, sometimes it’s best to stop chasing and just let it happen :)
      Betti xo

  • A great poetic read!! Also motivating to start living our lives and not others!

    • Thanks Chichi, I’m so glad you enjoyed my first post :)
      Betti xo

  • You are such a good writer. You are right, it’s good to enjoy the little things and not to get so bent out of shape if you don’t hit the giantic goals. You look gorgeous in those pics by the way. ❤

  • Rach

    I enjoyed reading this and you made such good pints on life! It definitely helps me realize what is important! T

    • Glad you enjoyed, Rach, and thanks for taking the time to comment :) xo

  • Hallelujah! This post is the best, I really enjoyed reading it & I totally agree! We should totally enjoy our lives to the fullest and not stand still & refuse to accept all things mediocre! Thank you for sharing this!

    XO IMKE | Pastellics

    • Thank you love, so glad you enjoyed! Will definitely be checking out your blog too :)
      Betti xo

  • Robin Drew

    Your articles are always great, it gives some best ideas and great informations.
    I read it completely and it is very nice.
    Thanks for sharing :)

  • Such a great first post! Felt like I was reading a pro magazine article :) I definitely agree with swooning over fandoms and staying on social media 24/7!

    Pop over to my blog!


    • Ohh thanks Sarah, that’s such a lovely thing to say! Will definitely be visiting your blog :)
      Betti xo

  • Love this post and the adorable pictures. Thank you for sharing and I look forward to more posts in this series!

    xo Annie

    • Thanks so much Annie, means a lot to hear such kind words :)
      Betti xo

  • Wonderful sentiment. Too often we worry about what others think or what we think we SHOULD do, rather than following our hearts! I wish you the best of luck and happiness in 2016!


  • Kia / house of KTS

    I really like this new series. You really can’t worry about what others think. If you did, you’d never get anything done. Other peoples opinions are just that.. their opinion. Instead focus on YOUR opinion. Love this.

    Kia / KTS

    • Thanks so much Kia, and I love your take on it! Solid advice :)
      Betti xo

  • The perfect article for Monday! I can’t stress enough how refreshing these posts are, Betti thanks for sharing your therapy with us! ;) Blogging is done through the little screens of ours, it’s so easy to get wrapped up in what you see and all of a sudden it’s monkey see monkey do without realizing it. It sure is a constant fight to remind ourselves to not measure success especially against another person; and I feel like it’s only gotten harder with social media being in your face constantly. Thanks for the read, loving this series!!

    xo, Alice || Alice + TYPENU Co

    • Thanks Alice, I’m so glad you enjoyed my first post! It definitely is a struggle, especially with so many messages bombarding us to do just that, but it’s important to remember what is really important in our lives :)
      Betti xo

  • Yellowicing

    This article was absolutely wonderful, I really needed to read it this morning. I’m trying really hard to keep remembering to not measure my own success against someone else’s. This article gave me a boost and really cheered me up.

    Lucy x- Yellowicing

    • Thank you so much Lucy :) I’m glad it cheered you up! I think it’s something everyone struggles with from time to time, but as long as we keep reminding each other to let it go, it’s possible to ditch the ‘keeping up with the Joneses’ syndrome.
      Betti xo

  • Great list Betti! It’s so true, life is way too short to worry about what other people think. Happy new year and all the best for 2016 x

  • Yes yes yes! It’s easy to get caught up in what we “should” be doing based on our age or what others our age are doing, when really we are all on our own journeys with our own timeline for things. Loved this post!

    • Thanks so much Kathryn, really appreciate the kind words :)
      Betti xo

  • Your cousin is smart and that is one of the best piece of advice that I have came across. I think we all are guilty of comparing ourself to others in some degree but as he said, life is way too short for that.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

    • He will be so happy you said that! Thanks for taking the time to read my ramblings :)
      Betti xo

    • John Haines

      Glad to see my intelligence is being recognised on an international level 😊

  • comparisons can literally be the death of our minds sometimes, but it’s good to keep a reminder that we all walk in different paces. great read for a monday!

  • Becky Hughff

    Absolutely love this post!

  • Not only the photographs are beautiful, but also this article is great! I really enjoyed reading it. Totally agree that life it too short for worrying excessively, then we are not able to fully enjoy the life we have and we waste every second of it.

    • Thanks for taking the time to comment Ela, really appreciate it and glad you enjoyed the post!
      Betti xo


    A perfect inspiring article to start the week off. Also the images are beautiful.

    Filipa xxx | Instagram

  • Amazing photos and a great share!! I agree we should not berate ourselves for our mistakes but rather make efforts to live each day onward well! :) xo~ Lena

  • Trang Do

    You looks so pretty! Love your makeup!!
    Love from {a lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and food blog}

  • Apart from the fact that I loved the sentiment in this post and agree with it, seeing the word scallywag made me happy to read it! I remember hearing it for the first time at work a few years ago (I am Spanish and lived in the uk for 12 years, so I keep discovering little gems every now and then) and it tickled me so much I wrote it at the back of a notebook, ha ha.

    Inma x

  • Sophie Athawes

    I love this post so much! Life really is too short. Betti you’re so stunning! Gorgeous photos xx

    Sophie Elizabeth

  • Yay, I’ve been looking forward to seeing the other team members write! I absolutely loved this piece, Betti – it’s so raw and realistic. Life is indeed too short to be sleepwalking through, and it’s a constant fear of mine that that’s where I’ll be in the next few years. That being said though, it’s also so great to take risks and have fun and not be perfect all the time, and I think that helps to combat that fear.

    becky ♡ star violet