For those of you who actually remember a life before the internet, it’s safe to say that times have changed drastically since our youth. We no longer carry around change for pay phones; entertain ourselves for hours on road trips with just a cd player, stack of CDS and handful of AA batteries, and wrap-around headphones (remember those?!); memorize telephone numbers, or use libraries as our main source of gaining information.

While the technological advances of the last few decades have made our lives increasingly more convenient, having everything at our fingertips at all times comes with it’s drawbacks. Work hours have become more like guidelines – for employees and freelancers alike – and digital dames like myself have an added layer of stress, locking ourselves into a vicious cycle of having to constantly be present and reachable across a million different social media channels. We still only get 24 hours a day and 365 days a year, but somehow the workload has increased twofold and is expected to be delivered within half the amount of time.

And it’s not just bosses who expect us to be reachable at all times. Family members and friends assume that if they are texting you, you must also be just as available as they are in that very moment. Seriously, guys, what is with this unspoken and accepted universal (un)truth that when you send a text to someone, that someone is supposed to enter some kind of 3rd dimension where time and daily obligations no longer exist and their sole purpose in life becomes answering your text message? Just because you have a hot second to blast off a text message does not mean that the recipient automatically gets granted five extra carefree minutes by the texting fairy to text you back!

This non-verbal, electronic communication has another quite ironic consequence – when you do finally meet up with that friend or family member that has been texting you non-stop, instead of putting away all devices and having a quality face-to-face hang, both parties are usually STILL attached to their iphones, checking their emails, answering other text messages, and getting distracted by all kinds of notifications. I mean seriously, is it really THAT important that all your Candy Crush lives have been restored?

Now, I for one try to make a concerted effort to put my phone on silent and tuck it away in my coat pocket when hanging out with friends or going out to dinner, but the minute my meal is over, and I pull out my phone only to be confronted with 15+ notifications from instagram, 3 notifications from twitter, 5 missed calls, 4 new whatsapp messages, and 10 new emails, leaving me to feel both guilty for not being more accessible to everyone and their mom at all times and resentful and stressed out that I’m getting pulled into a million different directions.

Which is why it’s really important to simply unplug from time to time and go off the grid. So every now and then, I urge you to block off a chunk of time – 2 hours, 24 hours, 48 hours or a full week; the duration is up to you and dependent on how urgent your obligations are – and unplug. Take this time to focus on you and only you, and re-charge your mind and soul so that you are ready to tack on future challenges with excitement and energy.

With these 5 easy steps, you will be on the road to relaxationville in no time, ready to face the world once you come out of your self-imposed hibernation:

1: Prepare

Simply turning off your phone and going awol is probably not the smartest move. It’s likely to get you fired and leave a lot of friends really pissed off. So make the necessary preparations. Get your work taken care of ahead of time and let your friends know that this weekend you will be incommunicado. Needing a longer break? Then use your vacation days and plan for a 4-day weekend. If you have any social media obligations, schedule things beforehand. By preparing ahead of time, you can ensure that you will actually be able to enjoy the next 48 hours (give or take) with a clear conscience. If you plan on spending some of your time watching movies, make sure to pre-download whatever it is you want to watch because…

2: Unplug & get cozy

Now it’s time to turn off your phone, or at least put it on silent, tuck it away in another room, and shut off your internet connection. We said we were going off the grid, so let’s really go off the grid.

Not asking you to unplug your landline, as real emergencies do happen, but let your friends and family know that you will not be taking any calls unless it is a REAL emergency. Now surround yourself with a warm pot of tea, your favorite books and magazines, light some candles, crawl under the covers, and get relaxing.

3: Indulge in offline activities

The best part about going off the grid is that it allows you to spend time doing things you love that you never seem to be able to make time for. I don’t know about you, but reading is one of those things that I loved doing as a child but never find time for as an adult – with the exceptions of when I am travelling or taking an off-the-grid weekend.

Now is also a great time to watch your favorite film, get your inner DaVinci on and start painting, get around to doing that DIY you always wanted to try… the possibilities are limitless!

4: Pamper yourself

Use some of this time to mentally and physically unwind as well. Start yourself a warm bath, throw in a bath bomb and sprinkle some bubble bath under the tap, light some candles and watch your favorite show. (If you are disciplined enough, go ahead, and turn the internet on for netflix, but avoid opening up any other programs or surfing the web).

5: Do some self-guided yoga and/or meditation!

Roll out that yoga mat and end the day with some sun salutations and meditation to center yourself. Connect with yourself and show gratitude for all that is good in your life.

photography: Rae Tashman and Sandro Mosco

Do you unplug from time to time? What are your tips & tricks for doing so?

Stay conscious, Rae


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Rae Tilly

Rae the EIC of LFB and YEOJA Magazine. She is also a photographer and social media influencer.


  • Yellowicing

    I adore this post Rae! Going off the grid is so ridiculously important, I don’t why it’s so hard to manage (I for one really struggle with it)
    Love the idea of a simpler time again where you’re not being pulled in a million different directions! I went to a mindfulness seminar over the weekend and it really spoke volumes to me. Love getting under the cover with a cup of tea and some books.

    Lucy x- Yellowicing

  • I love the writing in this post, it’s truly on point. We’re always available in this world.. I just saw a norwegian show where they showcased a blogger who lives in the woods and writes when she’s home, and I even though I don’t hunt or love the nature enough to sleep in it for a year, the idea for the first time seemed desirable. Why? Because the idea of no internet and phone obligations enchanted me.


  • This is great!! Only time I really take a break from everything especially social media is weekends thats my me time

    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

  • So difficult to UNPLUG! lOVING THE POST!

  • Funny enough, I didn’t really have a social media ‘presence’ until last year. It was more like a smudge on a plate. And to be honest, I was much happier then. I didn’t care about texts or instagram or twitter. And I’m not afraid taking breaks or even leaving. It’s strange to assume that unplugging could be the worst thing you can do in this generation. But there is a form of blissful ignorance I enjoy.

    xx Bash | H E Y   B A S H | bloglovin’

  • Love this post! Such great tips. And such a cozy post :)
    Thanks for sharing.

  • Elizabeth Hisle

    One of the best things about being hourly is being unavailable for work issues after hours. I take my free time very seriously, and my job doesn’t contact hourly employees anyway (well, my boss tried once and I was in a rehearsal so he never tried it again). Seriously though, what the deal? Sometimes I want to delete all social media and online contact because I was so much happier before it entered my life. I love Twitter and Instagram, but I hate the artificial stress I put on it. I really shouldn’t be that pissed off that people will follow and then unfollow within 24 hours, but I gripe about it every day. I need to unplug more often so I’m going to make a point to do it.

  • I am bookmarking this post for future reference because this was so helpful for me!!! I can’t remember the last time I didn’t feel pulled in a million directions just by the notifications on my phone, it’s ridiculous and you are so right that we should take control of it!

    Shot From The Street

  • I completely agree. These tips are so important for everyone to follow every now in then in this age. We are all so wrapped up in the digital world that sometimes we forget to really enjoy life. This post reminds me that I need to unplug more often. Thanks for the inspo :)

    Enclothed Cognition/Bloglovin

  • This is something I think about A LOT but haven’t managed to achieve it very often. I used to switch off when I was travelling abroad and internet was limited but now I find myself compulsively checking for free wifi as soon as I go into a cafe. Lately I have been setting my phone to airplane mode for an hour or so every evening.
    I have a trip to Spain coming up and I’m staying at our appartment at the beach where we have no internet. I could look for wifi at times but your post has inspired me to really take a break from everything and go off the grid. Thanks :)

    Inma x

  • deasynoel

    I need to take more baths <3 I'm happy to say that I'm not obsessed with social media, and check instagram maybe once or twice a day. But I am way too guilty of spending hours upon hours on the computer, in the name of work. Sigh. Doing yoga sounds like a great outlet for unplugging.

  • I love so much this post! I think that we live in a time where we are always busy working or wasting too much time on social media doing nothing and taking this time for yourself and just separated from all the media world is super important! And relaxing of course

  • sileas

    Oh gosh, you speak my mind! Unfortunately I’m sooo attached to my phone and being online almost 24/7, but your post reminded me that this isn’t only unnecessary but an addiction. The thought of getting out of the grid is somewhat tempting now and I’m more motivated to give it a try ;)

  • I love your writing style btw! Anyway, It’s easy for me to go off the grid because I don’t have a job yet(but still reading this). The only people who send me messages are my boyfriend, parents and sister. I love to pamper myself to unwind and get cozy. I watch old series [downloaded of course], like Full House and 70’s show. I also like to have a deep and meaning conversation with the person I’m living it just to relax for awhile :D

  • I agree with ungridding yourself from time to time.
    I have a smartphone with some essential apps but I don’t have any game apps (used to), no
    Facebook or Twitter on my phone with the reason of not getting to attached to devices.
    I do am sometimes a little bit to addicted to Instagram :’)
    I still use my cd-player and buy cd’s though! I love it! I do believe it sound better than from
    Youtube but that’s maybe just me. Thanks for the grid off tips! Xx

    Ice Pandora

  • I seriously wish i could just unplug myself lately. Only two months more to go and I am definitely going to disappear for at least a week. Enough is enough! :)

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  • What a great post! Unglugging has become even more important to me as my life becomes increasingly, and in order to handle it, I need to step away from it.

  • Amazing post and great tips! As a blogger, it’s impossible to unplug from social media. Since I put social media on a schedule, my life got much easier :)
    We Shop in Heels

  • Love this post! I try to read as much as I can every day! I love reading because I become immersed in a new world and I’m away from the internet and can just relax! I also love taking baths! Sooooooo calming!

  • i wish i unplugged more often. this post is making me want to unplug sooner then i probably would, and it’s definitely been harder lately.. when i do unplug it’s usually if i go abroad, even though i have data and service internationally i only use it to contact my mom and boyfriend. but it is so blissful when you don’t have constant beeping and vibrating near you

  • These are really great tips. I think it’s very relaxing to do some offline activities sometimes


  • I love yoga too.

    Lily Widjaja
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  • The beginning of this post makes me so nostalgic for my childhood when things were so much simpler! You have a great set of tips here :)

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  • Love this. Being always connected is just draining. I try to disconnect from the world by going to the beach on my own…!

  • Ada

    You’ve 100% inspired me to get “off-the-grid” this weekend. I might try my hand at painting and taking photographs without the incessant buzzing of my phone.
    Thanks, Rae.

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  • Great tips Rae!I also believe it’s very important to get off-the-grid from time to time. The phone is a constant distraction, it’s tiring and I feel it’s lowering the creative juice. We are still lucky to be a generation that know the before and after. I have 13 years difference with my younger brother and I have always seen him in front of a screen instead of playing outside with buddies like we did. It’s just sad. When I went in an Ayurvedic retreat for a week, we had a limited access to the Internet which was done in purpose to let people unplug! I felt SO GOOD, so relax, so free just enjoying my time reading or even doing nothing.


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  • Oh wow, this sounds like the perfect weekend! I definitely remember having memorised all my friends’ phone numbes and having that 2 minute chat with their mum when you called their landline. I’m always feeling the contradiction of wanting to imporve my social media platforms to be good at those things I do on the internet, but aso berating myself for wasting time online or mindlessy scrolling. A friend recently told me that she doesn’t take her phone into the bedroom with her, so I’ve been trying to gradually seperate myself from my phone at nighttimes so it’s easier to switch off! It used to live under my pillow and now it lives on top of my dressing table at night – I’m making progress :) Having time where you unplug is so important and I’m excited to try out some of your tips! xx


  • THANK YOU. I WHOLEHEARTEDLY, 100% AGREE, I feel like you took the words out of my mouth! I did this last weekend and it was perfect! How weird is it to think that not too long ago life was normally like that but now we’ve become so accustomed to being connected through the online world that we actively have to take time out to change that! I recently did a post on the advantage of alone time, cause like I said, I’ve been feeling so similar to you – can I update my post with a link to this one? :)